If you’ve never sold a horse before, the best way I can describe the experience is that it can be extremely fulfilling (to pair a creature with another human and take pride in it being a good fit) and yet extremely frustrating (because you have to find an interested person to make a perfect fit with a creature with a mind of its own).
For the most part, it ain’t easy.
I know there’s a lot of people out there who could never consider selling a horse, and I can absolutely appreciate that. As equestrians we pour much of our hearts, souls, and pocketbooks into our horses, and it’s hard to watch all that emotional and financial investment walk onto a trailer and drive off into the sunset.
But for me, sometimes selling a horse is the right thing to do. I sold Ivan because even though I loved that big lout, he was occasionally dangerous to my health, and it wasn’t worth losing limbs or life in pursuit of a hobby. It also happened that I was a fresh college graduate in search of my first full time job, and while searching simply could not afford the luxury of a horse.
Even though I feel like those are excellent reasons, there are those who disagree, that believe that a horse is a lifetime pet. Again, respect to you guys. I want to have that horse that I keep forever, but sometimes circumstances make me decide otherwise. C’est la vie.
When those unfortunate decisions have to be made, I make a real personal effort to make sure the decision is just and valid, and then, quite frankly, attempt to emotionally distance myself from the animal. Isn’t that how breakups go? It doesn’t mean that you necessarily love the creature any less, but for a while you build a wall until you are strong enough to tear it down and appreciate the memories that you stuffed behind it. If you’ve been reading this blog for any amount of time, yes, I am going through a similar process with Foster. Like I said, it ain’t easy.
What are your feelings on selling horses? Is it right- is it wrong? Have you had to part with a four legged beastie in your life? How did you approach the situation, and what advise would you give others going through similar scenarios?
PS- Life is cray right now between houses and horses and work, so expect a couple weeks of not-so-often blog posts. I will be back with updates on the House on a Hill 2.0 once the dust settles again.